Although any man can father a child, it takes a lot more to be a father and play the role of dad that is so crucial to a child’s life. For starters, who exactly is father, and why is his role so very important? The central to the emotional well-being of a child is their father; they are the disciplinarians and the capable caretakers.
Research has shown that if a child has a father who is involved, supportive and affectionate, he is able to vastly contribute to the language, cognitive and social development of their child, as well as a strong inner core resource, academic achievement, authenticity, good self-esteem, and a sense of overall well-being.
How Our Relationships are influenced by Fathers
A child’s primary relationship with their father can affect all of the relationships that a child has, from birth to death including relationships with friends, lovers and even spouses. The early patterns of interaction that a child has with their father are the exact same patterns that going forward will be projected into all of their relationships…forevermore: not only in the child’s intrinsic idea of who they really are as they relate to those around them, but also the range of what is considered by the child to be loving and acceptable.
A woman will tend to be attracted to men who hold the same patterns that her good old dad did, so a father who is honest, gentle, kind, and loving, will raise his daughters into women who will search for those same characteristics in a mate. Women who have become used to certain historic and familiar behavioral patterns will feel comfortable and familiar with those traits in other men.
Boys on the other hand may behave differently, they tend to model themselves after their feathers. They desperately seek their father´s approval in all that they do, and they will copy the behaviors which they recognize as both familiar and successful. Therefore, if dad was dominating, controlling, angry and abusive, those exact patterns will be the ones that their sons could emulate and imitate. However, if dad was protective, supportive, kind, and loving, that is what their sons will want to be.
As humans, we are social animals who learn by modeling behavior. As a matter of fact, all primates learn how to successfully function and survive in the work via social imitation. All that children know are those early patterns which affect the way that that they feel about themselves as well as the way they develop. A child is very vulnerable to these early patterns and those behavioral qualities will be incorporated into their repertoire of social exchange.
The importance of dad is something that should never be under-estimated. For example, girls whose relationships with their fathers are good, generally do better in math, and boys whose fathers are actively involved tend to perform better on achievement tests and have better grades. And boys who feel loved tend to develop securely with a sustained and stable sense of self. Who a child is and who they will become, is an ongoing process. Fathers play an important role in the outcome.